Consciousness...It is all about raising your Vibration

10 Ways to Raise your Vibration

1.Forgive yourself and others:
Life is too short to hold on to regrets, grudges, miscommunications, or disappointments. Free yourself by forgiving and letting go of any negative energy you’re holding on to about yourself or others. The process of forgiving yourself and others will result in your feeling light and free; it will raise your vibration.

2. Practice gratitude and appreciation:
Whatever you focus on grows. So, when you focus on every thing in your life you feel grateful for all and the wonderful people you appreciate, the universe hands you more to feel grateful about.

3. Live each day as though it were your last:
Then you will be living in a state of light, love and unconditional
contribution. What would you say to the people you care about ..
4.Meditate or pray:
You open up a direct link between yourself and the spiritual realm when you meditate or pray. You will come closer to your creator energy, raise your vibration experience, peace, clarity, joy and connection, as well as a perfectly balanced state between your mental, physical, emotional and spiritual realms.

5.Suspend judgment:
One judges another to feel less guilty about one’s own misgivings. Judgment energy is dense, dark and heavy. On the other hand, unconditional acceptance is light, free and accepting. Let go of judging and criticising yourself and others. Everyone is on a different path and some appear to be farther ahead on their path than others. Neither path is better nor worse than another. Raise your consciousness to one of acceptance.

6. View every experience as a gift:
If you look back at occurrences in your life, you can easily see how even the worst situations you experienced in your life ended up teaching you invaluable lessons and therefore resulted in putting you in perfect place for your continuing development. When you view every experience — the good, the bad, and the ugly — as a gift, life flows more like a gentle, inspiring breeze.

7. Stay consciously aware of all your thoughts and feelings:
It is easy to fall into negative patterns of complaining and feeling like a victim of society and your life. When you catch yourself in the negative zone, don’t feel badly about it and beat yourself up. Simply choose to switch your consciousness to one of gratitude and positive thinking.

8. Treat your physical body as your temple :
Your body is the only vehicle you’ve been given for this ride called life. The better you care for your body by eating a healthy, balanced diet, and by implementing a regular exercise routine, and by giving your body the rest it requires, the more you will experience increased energy, vitality, joy and freedom.

9. View the world through the eyes of a child:
Children are enthralled by the process of observing and experiencing the wonder and beauty in every single thing. They can’t get enough. Look at every tree, sunset, cloud and human being as a child would and you'll be in a constant state of wonder, joy, surprise, acceptance and enlightenment.

10.Give love, love, love from your heart:
It’s all about love. Love is the highest vibration. Allow yourself to receive love unconditionally from others. Give love from your heart unconditionally to yourself and others and you will experience the highest state of consciousness possible.

The Path of Surrender

"On the path of will there are methods, on the path of surrender, surrender itself is the method. All methods are nonsurrendering, because a method means depending on yourself. On the path of surrender you are no more, so you cannot do anything. You have done the ultimate, the last; you have surrendered. You surrender only when every method has become futile, when you cannot reach by any method. You have tried your best. You have knocked on every door and no door opens, and you have passed through all the routes and no route reaches. You have done whatsoever you can do and now you feel helpless. In that total helplessness surrender happens.

But what is surrender and how does it work? Methods are not difficult, you can train yourself. But for surrender you cannot train yourself. You cannot ask how to surrender; the very question is absurd. Can you ask how to love? Either there is love or there is not. Once a technique is given to you, you will cling to the technique. Love is being totally open, vulnerable. Love happens, surrender happens. Love and surrender are deeply one.

How is it that you have not surrendered yet? What is your technique of nonsurrendering? If you have not fallen in love yet, then the real problem is not how to love. The real problem is to dig deep to find out how you have lived without love, what is your trick, what is your defense structure. That can be understood and should be understood.

First thing: we live with the ego, in the ego, centered in the ego. I am, without knowing who I am. I go on announcing, ‘I am’. This ‘I-am-ness is false, because I do not know who I am. This false ‘I’ is the ego.  This is the defense. This protects your  from surrendering.

You cannot surrender, but you can become aware of this defense measure. If you have become aware of it, it dissolves. By and by, you are not strengthening it, and one day you come to feel, ‘I am not’. The moment you feel ‘I am not’, surrender happens. So try to find out whether you are. Really, is there a centre in you that you can call you call your ‘I’? Go deep down within yourself, go on trying to find out where is this ‘I’, where is the abode of this ego.

Rinzai went to his master and he said, “Give me freedom!” The master said, “Bring yourself. I you are, I will make you free. But if you are not, then how can I make you free? You are already free. And freedom is freedom from ‘you’. So go on and find out where this ‘I’ is, where you are, then come to me. This is the meditation. Go and meditate.”

So the disciple Rinzai goes and meditates for weeks, months, and then he comes. Then he says, “I am not the body. Only this much I have found out.”

So the master says, “This much you have become free. Go again. Try to find out.”

Then he tries, meditates, and he finds that “I am not my mind, because I can observe my thoughts. So the observer is different from the observed – I am not my mind.”

So his master says, “Now you are three-fourths liberated. Now go again and find out who you are.”

So he was thinking, “I am not my body. I am not my mind.” He had read, studied, he was well informed, so he was thinking, “I am not my body, not my mind, so I must be my soul, my atma.” But he meditated, and then he found that there is no atma, no soul, because his atma is nothing but your mental information – just doctrines, words, philosophies.

So he came running one day and he said, “Now I am no more!”

Then his master said, “Am I now to teach you the methods of freedom?”

Rinzai said, “I am free because I am no more. There is no one to be in bondage. I am just a wide emptiness, a nothingness.”

Only nothingness can be free. If you are something, you will be in bondage. If you are you will be in bondage. Only a void, a vacant space, can be free. Then you cannot bind it. Rinzai came running and said, “I am no more. Nowhere I am to be found.” This is freedom. And for the first time he touched his master’s feet – for the first time!

Not actually, because he had touched them many times before also. But the master said, “For the first time you have touched my feet.”

Rinzai asked, “Why do you say for the first time? I have touched your feet many times.” The master said, “But you were there, so how could you touch my feet while you were already there? While you were there how can you touch my feet?”

The ‘I’ can never touch anybody’s feet, it’s touching it’s own feet in a roundabout way. “You have touched my feet for the first time because you are no more. And this is also the last time”, the master said. “The first and the last.”

Surrender happens when you are no more, so you can not surrender. That is why surrender cannot be a technique. You cannot surrender, you are the hindrance. So you and surrender cannot coexist. So find out where you are, who you are. This inquiry creates many, many surprising results. “Who am I?” is an inquiry to dissolve. There is not going to be an answer, that “You are this.” Only the question will dissolve. There will be no one to ask even “Who am I?” And then you know.

When the ‘I’ is not, the real ‘I’ opens. When the ego is not, you are for the first time encountering your being. That being is void. Then you can surrender; then you have surrendered. You are surrender now.

When you surrender you become a valley; when you are an ego you are like a peak. Ego means you are above everyone else, you are somebody. When one surrenders, one becomes like a valley. One becomes depth, not height. Then the whole existence begins to pour into him from everywhere. He is just a vacuum, just a depth, an abyss, bottomless. The whole existence begins to pour from everywhere. You can say God runs from everywhere to him, enters him from every pore, fills him totally.

There are minor surrenders; there are major surrenders. Surrendering to a master is a minor surrender, but you begin to feel it because the master begins to flow into you immediately. If you surrender to a master, suddenly you feel his energy flowing into you. If you cannot feel energy flowing into you, then know well you have not surrendered even in a minor way. Even a look from the master into your eyes will change your total being, but it can change only if your eyes are just vacant, valleylike. If you can absorb the look of the master, immediately you will be different.

So these are the minor surrenders that happen before you surrender totally. .  Once you have known that through surrender you receive something unknown, unbelievable, unexpected, then you are ready for a major surrender.

And these minor surrenders prepare you for the total surrender. The master helps you in minor surrenders so that you can gather courage for a major surrender, total surrender.."

 From the 'Book of Secrets'

 Shared by Mrs Seema Kalia 

Finding the Right Partner

 

"This is my observation: if you are unhappy you will find somebody who is unhappy. Unhappy people are attracted towards unhappy people. And it is good, it is natural. It is good that the unhappy people are not attracted towards happy people; otherwise they would destroy their happiness. It is perfectly okay.

Only happy people are attracted towards happy people.

The same attracts the same. Intelligent people are attracted towards intelligent people; stupid people are attracted towards stupid people.

You meet people of the same plane.

So the first thing to remember is: a relationship is bound to be bitter if it has grown out of unhappiness. First be happy, be joyful, be celebrating, and then you will find some other soul celebrating and there will be a meeting of two dancing souls and a great dance will arise out of it.
The need to be loved is childish, immature. The need to love is mature.

Don’t ask for a relationship out of loneliness, no. Then you are moving in a wrong direction. Then the other will be used as a means and the other will use you as a means. And nobody wants to be used as a means! Every single individual is an end unto himself. It is immoral to use anybody as a means.

First learn how to be alone. Meditation is a way of being alone.

If you can be happy when you are alone, you have learned the secret of being happy. Now you can be happy together. If you are happy, then you have something to share, to give. And when you give you get; it is not the other way. Then a need arises to love somebody.

Ordinarily the need is to be loved by somebody. It is a wrong need. It is a childish need; you are not mature. It is a child’s attitude.

A child is born. Of course, the child cannot love the mother; he does not know what love is and he does not know who is the mother and who is the father. He is totally helpless. His being is still to be integrated; he is not one piece; he is not together yet. He is just a possibility. The mother has to love, the father has to love, the family has to shower love on the child. Now he learns one thing: that everybody has to love him. He never learns that he has to love. Now the child will grow, and if he remains stuck with this attitude that everybody has to love him, he will suffer his whole life. His body has grown, but his mind has remained immature.

A mature person is one who comes to know the other need: that now I have to love somebody.

The need to be loved is childish, immature. The need to love is mature.

And when you are ready to love somebody, a beautiful relationship will arise; otherwise not.

“Is it possible for two people in a relationship to be bad for each other?” Yes, that’s what is happening all over the world. To be good is very difficult. You are not good even to yourself. How can you be good to somebody else?

You don’t even love yourself! How can you love somebody else? Love yourself, be good to yourself.

Your so-called religious saints have been teaching you never to love yourself, never to be good to yourself. Be hard on yourself! They have been teaching you be soft towards others and hard towards yourself. This is absurd.

I teach you that the first and foremost thing is to be loving towards yourself. Don’t be hard; be soft. Care about yourself. Learn how to forgive yourself — again and again and again — seven times, seventy-seven times, seven hundred seventy-seven times. Learn how to forgive yourself. Don’t be hard; don’t be antagonistic towards yourself. Then you will flower.

In that flowering you will attract some other flower. It is natural. Stones attract stones; flowers attract flowers. Then there is a relationship which has grace, which has beauty, which has a benediction in it.

If you can find such a relationship, your relationship will grow into prayer; your love will become an ecstasy and through love you will know what the divine is."

OSHO

Parable of the snake

"Listen to a story. Some cowherd boys used to tend their cows in a meadow
where a terrible poisonous snake lived. Everyone was on the alert for fear of it. One
day a brahmachari was going along the meadow. The boys ran to him and said:
'Revered sir, please don't go that way. A venomous snake lives over there.' 'What
of it, my good children?' said the brahmachari. 'I am not afraid of the snake. I
know some mantras.' So saying, he continued on his way along the meadow. But the
cowherd boys, being afraid, did not accompany him. In the mean time the snake
moved swiftly toward him with upraised hood. As soon as it came near, he recited a
mantra, and the snake lay at his feet like an earthworm. The brahmachari said:
'Look here. Why do you go about doing harm? Come, I will give you a holy word. By
repeating it you will learn to love God. Ultimately you will realize Him and so get rid
of your violent nature.' Saying this, he taught the snake a holy word and initiated
him into spiritual life. The snake bowed before the teacher and said, 'Revered sir,
how shall I practise spiritual discipline?' 'Repeat that sacred word', said the
teacher, 'and do no harm to anybody'. As he was about to depart, the brahmachari
said, 'I shall see you again.'

"Some days passed and the cowherd boys noticed that the snake would not bite.
They threw stones at it. Still it showed no anger; it behaved as if it were an
earthworm. One day one of the boys came close to it, caught it by the tail, and,
whirling it round and round, dashed it again and again on the ground and threw it
away. The snake vomited blood and became unconscious. It was stunned. It could not
move. So, thinking it dead, the boys went their way.

"Late at night the snake regained consciousness. Slowly and with great difficulty
it dragged itself into its hole; its bones were broken and it could scarcely move.
Many days passed. The snake became a mere skeleton covered with a skin. Now and
then, at night, it would come out in search of food. For fear of the boys it would not
leave its hole during the day-time. Since receiving the sacred word from the
teacher, it had given up doing harm to others. It maintained its life on dirt, leaves, or the fruit that dropped from
the trees.

"About a year later the brahmachari came that way again and asked after the
snake. The cowherd boys told him that it was dead. But he couldn't believe them.
He knew that the snake would not die before attaining the fruit of the holy word
with which it had been initiated. He found his way to the place and, searching here
and there, called it by the name he had given it. Hearing the teacher's voice, it
came out of its hole and bowed before him with great reverence. 'How are you?'
asked the brahmachari. 'I am well, sir', replied the snake. 'But', the teacher asked,
'why are you so thin?' The snake replied: 'Revered sir, you ordered me not to harm
any body. So I have been living only on leaves and fruit. Perhaps that has made me
thinner.'

"The snake had developed the quality of sattva; it could not be angry with anyone. It had totally forgotten that the cowherd boys had almost killed it. "The brahmachari said: 'It can't be mere want of food that has reduced you to this state. There must be some other reason. Think a little.' Then the snake remembered that the boys had dashed it against the ground. It said: 'Yes, revered sir, now I remember. The boys one day dashed me violently against the ground. They are ignorant, after all. They didn't realize what a great change had come over my mind. How could they know I wouldn't bite or harm anyone?' The brahmachari exclaimed: 'What a shame! You are such a fool! You don't know how to protect yourself. I asked you not to bite, but I didn't forbid you to hiss. Why didn't you scare them by hissing?'

"So you must hiss at wicked people. You must frighten them lest they should do you harm. But never inject your venom into them. One must not injure others.

"In this creation of God there is a variety of things: men, animals, trees, plants.
Among the animals some are good, some bad. There are ferocious animals like the tiger. Some trees bear fruit sweet as nectar, and others bear fruit that is poisonous. Likewise, among human beings, there are the good and the wicked, the holy and the unholy. There are some who are devoted to God, and others who are attached to the world..

Sri Ramakrishna Paramhansa..

It's all One Energy.....

When Lord Krishna sat in Samadhi that is when he recited the Gita. After the war, once Arjuna asks him that I have forgotten the beautiful knowledge that you gave me, at that time there was a lot of crowd and so much commotion on the war field and I didn’t listen to you properly. Please tell me again what you said. Then Krishna replied," No, I can’t tell you now, at that time I was in samadhi , so I made you sit and whatever came to me I told you at that time, now I cannot again tell you again".

So whatever Lord Krishna said was not a person saying this knowledge but the universe speaking. These messages came from the Shiva tattva, the atma tattva.
He said, ’I am the sun, I am the rain, truth and untruth, everything is me.’ This is very deep knowledge.

If you see everything is made from one tattva, from atoms. What is your mother made of, father made of? Everyone’s body is made from the same thing, from food grains. Food grains are consumed and the body is developed, whoever eats, they all grow and the body is made from that. So everyone is made from one substance, one power and one energy. So, he is saying the whole world is made from that one consciousness, one energy, one substance.

 Now if you see the fan, mike and light are all working with one current, with electricity, isn’t it? But it seems like the mike is different, the light is different and the fan is something else. They all look different but they are all made up of the same thing. In the same way, if the sun was not there then the earth cannot exist. If the earth was not there, how could there be plants or trees or human beings? So what is our source? First from the physical aspect our source is the earth; more subtle than that it is the sun. What is the source of the sun? The universal energy - and so Lord Krishna says that universal energy is ME.

That is the atma that is you and that is me and everything is made of this universal energy and this is what today’s scientist also say. Those who study quantum physics this is what they say - that the whole world is made up of one energy. Earlier it was said that there were different protons, electrons functioning and making things work but now they say it is all one energy, everything is a wave functions. What we consider physical things are not there in reality, it is all just energy and this is what Lord Krishna has said many years ago in the Bhagavad Gita.

‘Avajananti mam mudham manusim tanumasritam, Param bhavam ajananto mama bhuta- mahesvaram’, these people do not see my true nature as that one universal energy, consciousness and they are thinking I am a human being. I am in a human body but the consciousness inside me is that supreme consciousness. I am not a human being. I am a power.

Navratri...Another detailed perspective..

A Talk by H.H. Sri Sri Ravi Shankar

The Art of Living International Centre, Bangalore (Navaratri 2004)

‘Nava’ means nine. It also means new or fresh. ‘Ratri’ – ‘Ra’ means giving solace or rest. ‘Tri’ means three. These are the three types of botherations or problems that can haunt a person: the physical, mental and the spiritual problems that come to you. That which gives you relief from these difficulties is ‘ratri.’ ‘Ratri’ literally means night. Night is called ‘ratri’, because it relieves you from misery and brings you comfort. It takes you in it arms and puts you to sleep.  Birds and animals do not worry at night they go to sleep happily. Night relaxes everybody; whether one is unhappy or miserable, everybody goes to sleep. It gives relief from any type of misery: physical, mental or emotional. ‘Navaratri’ means the new night or the nine nights that give you rest from all these three aspects of your lives.

An infant is in its mother’s womb for nine months. It is in the rest period. Similarly, these nine days are an opportunity to get back to your Self and take your mind off all the mundane things that bother you. This is the time for self referral and self inquiry, “Who am I?”,  “What is the world all about?” Then you become creative. You become victorious. When negative forces haunt you, you are disturbed, unpleasant, unhappy, uncreative, unproductive and grumbling. Craving, aversion, uncertainty and fear are negative forces. Get relief from all this, go to the source of energy within you. That is Shakti.

And, what are the ‘asuras’ (demons)?

‘Madhu and Kaitaba’ – ‘Madhu’ is craving and ‘Kaitaba’ is aversion. The second signifies hatred towards anybody. These are the first rakshasas (demons).

‘Raktabijasur’ is that which is in your genes. ‘Bija’ means seed. Sometimes your behaviour is not under your control. It is in your genes. This can be changed.  With pranayama and meditation, certain genetic changes happen inside you. That is Raktabijasur. Sometimes people have to take medication to behave properly. The medication is for killing the Raktabijasur. For example, when there is a lack of lithium in the blood it causes restlessness and valium is prescribed. The body and mind are not two separate things. They are interlinked. Sometimes the body affects the mind. When 'Raktabijasur' is transformed, the  'Shakti" (energy) is awakenend and negatitivty disappears. When this happens, all  physical ailments disappear.

‘Mahishasur’ – Mahi means dullness; like a buffalo. ‘Mahisha’ is symbolic of heaviness and jadatwa (inertia).The Divine Shakti brings energy, and inertia is lifted off.

‘Shumbh - Nishumbh’ is doubt of everything. Doubt of the self is ‘Shumbh’. Some people doubt themselves: “Am I right? Am I really devoted? Do I have my intelligence? Can I do this?” Doubt of others is ‘Nishumbh.’ Nishumbh is to doubt everybody else around you. You think that a person is not good, he / she wants to pull your leg.  That is when you always think others are after you. That is Nishumbh. Nobody is interested in pulling your leg. Everybody is busy in their own running race. But you sit and imagine, everybody is trying to pull your leg, they are thinking about you. Who is thinking about you? You know, these days people are so busy. Nobody has the time to intentionally insult anybody. Even to insult anybody you need time. You need time to think. People’s minds are clogged and preoccupied. Where do they have time to insult you? If they insult you, it has happened by chance…. it’s a by product, because they are so occupied. They are doing something and their action has insulted you. Do not think they are after you or trying to insult you. So do not sit and worry. You need clarity of mind. People don't have this. When you thus doubt everyone around you it means 'Nishumbh' has taken over you.

‘Chanda – Munda’. ‘Chanda’ means the one who has only a head. Someone with this tendency will say the very opposite of what you say. They are determined to oppose, irrespective of anything. That is Chanda - to say no, to be negative. ‘Munda’ is one who does not have a head at all. Some people whatever you say it goes above them. They cannot take in anything. Chanda and Munda - they are a big botheration.

Chanda is one who always goes against you; one who cannot agree with you at all. Chanda has taken control over such a kind of person. There is a story. There was once a married man who found out after marriage that whatever he would ask his wife to do, she would do the opposite. One day he would want raw food and on that day she would make him an elaborate cooked meal. She would do the opposite of anything he told her to do. He said “I want to sleep”. She would say, “I want to play music.” So he was frustrated. He tried to adjust. He applied all the course points: ‘Accept people as they are. Present moment is inevitable. Do not see intention behind other people’s mistakes.’ But how long could he remind himself. Nothing seemed to work and he got more tense.

So he went to see a wise man - a swami and asked him, “I have a big problem. What should I do?” The swami whispered a mantra in his ears and told him to come back in three months. After three months when he came back, his face was all bright. The Swamiji said, “You look very happy.” He replied, “Yes Swamiji, your mantra worked excellently.” There were other disciples there who were curious to know what the mantra was. The Swami said it was very easy and that he would tell everybody. He repeated out loud the instructions that he had earlier given to the man. He said whatever you want her to do, you tell her to do the opposite. If you want to sleep, you tell her to play music. If you want to eat dosa, tell her that you want idlis. Do not speak your plain heart to her.

I know there are some people here. When they want to go they will say they do not want to go. They want to sleep and they say they do not feel like sleeping. If someone says they do not feel like leaving that means they are leaving now. So, “I am fasting” means “I am going to eat well!” So you should know the minds of these people and say the opposite of what you want. That is the way to deal with Chandas. As for the Mundas, just know that they will not listen to anything. Nothing goes through.

‘Dhumralochana’ – ‘Dhumra’ means smoke and ‘Lochana’ means eyes; it means one who does not perceive things in the right way. They are neither blind nor do they have clear vision. These are more dangerous. People who think they know that which they do not know. People who think they have great logic but in fact do not have any. It’s like saying:  ‘If the door is half open then it is half closed; (hence) that means if the door is fully open, then it can also be fully closed.’ This type of argument is Kutarka (illogical arguments). That is Dhumralochana. Those under the influence of this do not see anything clearly. For them everything is hazy. That is another lack of Shakti.
 

So when you are full of enthusiasm and energy all these six rakshasas will disappear. At high prana level, you will not find any one of these. From time to time they come to you and you have to get over them. This can happen to everybody.

‘Durga Shakti’ is not limited to some time and space. It’s happening in every atom in creation, in every mind, every consciousness and in everybody’s life. All these Chanda – Munda also come not only to one person. You have all acted like that sometimes; as children you have been like that. Chandi means stubbornness - just being stubborn without any reason, without any logic, without any cause. All these are different modes of prana and they are finally all part of one divinity. They are not an entity somewhere they are all a play and display of one consciousness. That is beautiful is it not?

Some of the devas (gods) asked, why should the Goddess Durga appear? It would be sufficient for her to say, “Hmmm…” and all the rakshasas would disappear. Why did she have to fight them? But we know why she fights… to make it more playful, more colorful and to make the world more interesting. So, she comes and just plays with the trishula, chakra and gada and through these weapons even these ‘asuras’ become purified, they attain her.

It’s one light, one consciousness which plays in two roles to get back to the Self. That is why it is said that there are no two separate Shaktis (energies) but only one. It is there as deva (god) and asura (demon) that come in different forms and become one in all.  This is ‘Advait Gyan’ (knowledge of nonduality). 

It is not that Durga attacks at some particular time. It is happening everyday. Everyday creation (Shrishti) happens and destruction (Samhar) happens. Everyday a new tree is born. The sun was born, and now has set. Again the sun is going to rise. It’s all a cyclic phenomenon. That’s what makes this world diverse and so interesting.

You know the biggest contribution of India to the world is that: everything is cyclic; it is not linear. Usually people think that things are born and that’s it; it is all linear: there is a beginning and there is an end. Here everything is cyclic and spherical. Truth is spherical. Time is spherical.

Sama, Dana, Bheda and Danda

A wise person is said to have four techniques, both inwardly and outwardly —

Sama, Dana, Bheda and Danda. To deal with people and be wise, the first thing you use is Sama which means in a peaceful and understanding way. When that doesn’t work out, then you try Dana which means allowing it to happen and forgiving. When people don’t recognise your generosity in allowing them space, then the third principle called Bheda comes in, it means to intentionally create a gap or misunderstanding. If a person still doesn’t realise that they have made a mistake then it is time to use the stick, Danda, the final approach.

The same four methods apply to your inner life, your Being. Sama — maintain the equanimity. Take both the good and the bad with equanimity. Dana means giving up that which disturbs you, that which cannot put you in the royal seat of equanimity. It means to surrender the mind which is the cause of your sorrows, problems and misery. Dana includes forgiving too. When your mind wanders around, allow it to go. Follow it and bring it back. 

Now comes Bheda- differentiate, separate the imperishable from the perishable. This very body is so hollow and empty. When you are watching the body, pleasant sensations arise, unpleasant sensations arise. As you watch, they all disappear. Energy is oozing out of every pore of your body. If you watch, it flows in an even manner. It creates balance. And you realise you are not this body or these sensations. You have been always reacting to the sensations. An emotion used to give rise to some sensation; the sensation, in turn, used to create an impression, another emotion. So these circles of craving and aversion with sensation and emotion, made your life, both subtle body and gross body, and that took you from life to life. Another thing that you can do is to disassociate yourself from the sensation. 

Then comes Danda — Danda means support. Determination and commitment are the Danda. Your spiritual discipline is Danda. Mind is like a vine (creeper), it needs a support. Listening to spiritual discourses, satsangs, practice, Guru’s presence are all the support, the Danda.

It is Chetna and Chitta that is coming out of every pore of the body. The wick is the body and you are the glow. When you shift from the wick to the glow, your mind becomes stable – Sri Sri